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WINTER SOLSTICE | Sitting With The Darkness

Updated: Dec 22, 2023

Winter Solstice falls on Dec 22nd at 3.27am, followed by the full Cold Moon on Dec 27th(see the next blog post).

Winter Solstice is a time of hibernation, stillness, rest and reflection.

In these quieter periods, it is best to proceed with caution and think carefully and cautiously about big decisions and the future. Although The New Year tends to be a time where people set new habits or goals, it can be more beneficial during the darker months to take stock and plan for Spring. Slowing down, journalling and reviewing.

Having said that, I like the fresh start that January brings, but it doesn't mean we have to be running full steam ahead, we will probably still need to rest, sleep, and move with the light. I think it's often why so many New Year's resolutions have gone out the window by March, slow and steady, bit by bit, then you can expand and spread your wings in April!

winter sea view, winter solstice ritual
winter sea


At this time in the Northern Hemisphere, we are experiencing the longest and darkest nights of the year and the shortest days with the least amount of daylight. The dark triumphs over the light, but this signifies a turning point, marking the shortest day of the year in light, this shift in energy as we welcome longer days and shorter nights.


In winter everything lies dormant in the silent earth, it is a sacred time of rest and reflection before the awakening and the slow build toward brighter days.

The energy of winter is that of going within. It's the fruitful darkness and silence out of which our soul's yearnings and new inspirations can eventually emerge.  

In the West we tend to constantly live or try to maintain a level of 'Summer' always achieving, thriving, doing, busying, but when we learn and lean into Nature we can experience moments of genius! More space to reflect, stop, pause, and check-in.

I love the thought that under the stillness, we are nurturing seeds that will come to life in Spring and summer.

'What are these seeds for you? Ideas? Dreams? Changes? Art? Creativity? Love? Family?'


Why do we spend so much time suppressing and hiding our darkness?

Some emotions are pleasant, others are not, but by learning through still practices like yin yoga, or meditation/mindfulness, we investigate uncomfortable emotions or feelings. Fear, sadness, and guilt can be masked by anxiety. In this still space, drawing on compassion and empathy, we can explore our darkness, learn to master the breath and feel the sensations in the body. We become friendly with the darker parts, which in turn gives them less power.

A short exercise, set a 5 or 10-minute timer:

  • Sit comfortably and close your eyes. regulate your breath to 5 counts in and 5 counts out.

  • Start to observe sensations in the body, see if you can stop your mind from racing or creating a narrative around these feelings or sensations, and just notice.

  • Now sit quietly and witness your breath and your thoughts. Your mind might be very busy, but see if you can witness your thoughts from a distance. Try to let them pass, slow and mindfully.

  • Now, if there are any reoccurring thoughts, say quietly in the mind or out loud, 'Thank you for letting me know, now is not the time'

  • Lastly, if, like me, you suffer with 'not enough' syndrome, if any particular damning or unkind thoughts come in, see them and say quietly in the mind 'Thank you for letting me know, but I am doing my best, I am love, I am light and enough'.

I'll be sharing a recording meditation of this soon, so subscribe to the podcast to access this.

In my next blog post, with the cold moon, I've shared a cutting of the chord ritual, which you can do at the solstice too, but I wanted to share a quick ritual for the Solstice.


journal prompts & fire

When you sit with the darkness what comes up? Thoughts, feelings, experiences?

How can you nurture these darker more vulnerable parts of yourself?

Who in your life makes you feel loved, no matter the darkness?

Where do you find the light? Friends? Swimming? Walking? Dancing? family?

Call in more of what brings you light.

Write a list of what no longer serves you, parts that might be buried in the darkness, that need to come to light and be let go of.

Safely burn this list, call in the light, feel your heart expand and open.

Happy Solstice you wonderful lot, let the light in. x

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